What is required for a couple to be a conscious couple?

That the couple surrender to working out their unresolved issues together.
That the couple gain tolerance for sitting with the normal suffering of ups and downs that being in a couple endures.
A willingness of each member of the couple learn to deal with his or her feelings through the help of others and not through addictive behavior or undue dependency on the partner. This can be accomplished through the AA community, Alanon, a mental health clinician, or a religious or spiritual organization.
That the couple create a proactive daily practice that regulates their mood. This can be done with AA meetings, Alanon, prayer and meditation, biofeedback, neurobiofeedback, nutritional support, exercise, psychotherapy, group therapy, or alternative medicine.
That the couple be of service to others, and not just to the couple.
That the couple regulate their suffering through a healthy relationship to self and other, and not through addictive behaviors.
That the couple form a positive and rigorously honest relationship to all of their feelings.
That the couple perceive couple difficulties as a part of life to be embraced and not something to be avoided, ignored, resisted, or denied.
That the couple take time to make positive meaning out of their couple experience in order to promote growth and change.
That the couple claim wanting to be with their partner and not just needing to be with their partner.
That the couple take the position of perceiving their partnership as a vehicle of a meaningful, purposeful life with an attitude of gratitude, and not as a life sentence.